Rachel Dolecheck

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To all the white girls I spent time with in Louisiana that have been completely silent on the racial issues happening in the world, I want you to know that I hear you, and I understand your silence.

Growing up white in the South especially as a female is the definition of white privilege. Your best friend just got a new dress? Good news because your mom will most likely buy you a cuter more expensive dress because it’s important to be pretty and wealthy in the South. You are never and I repeat never allowed to hang out alone with a black boy and even worse if you date one. You have probably heard your parents say the n word so many times that it almost seems normal. You have probably heard your parents complain about black people at your school, in your neighborhood, and your community. People in the South complain about black people for literally being black.

And the reason for this silence is simply because of how we were raised in regards to racism. It’s because growing up in the South, you are taught to think most black people are violent, criminals, and ignorant. But it makes sense right? Slavery started in the South. Slavery STILL happens in the South.

To the farmers that have black men working for them doing their dirty work, you are part of this problem. You need to do better. To the lazy high school coaches who teach history, you need to do better. To the girls who were taught to be racist, you truly need to do better.

We are literally living through history and now is not the time to be silent unless you associate with being a racist, which I don’t think anyone would ever want to admit to.

But remember, I hear your silence and I understand. It’s hard. You don’t want to disappoint your family or friends. You are scared to maybe say the wrong thing. You don’t want to be judged. I’ve had every single thought you are probably having right now, but it takes one black friend to make you see life a little differently. And I thank God every day for bringing my black friends into my life because I truly would not be where I am writing this today without them.

Change starts with us. Change starts with us educating our parents on racism. It’s time to start having the conversation about racism. It’s time to take a step back and truly educate ourselves on black history and black oppression in America. Black oppression that continues to happen today. And let’s be honest, we did NOT get a good black history education growing up in the South. It’s time to stop claiming you’re not racist by saying things like “I don’t hate all black people” or “There are some good black people in the world.”

And you don’t have to post on social media to make yourself feel better about the situation. You don’t have to post at all, but you do need to be having these conversations with the people around you. The people that actually listen and value your opinion. Have conversations about racism with people who’s opinion you may have the power to change.

I am trying to do my part in spreading awareness to the people that I know need it the most, and I know that’s not enough. So if you want to do your part, but don’t know where to start, here are is a book I recently ordered to help me understand black oppression and racism in America (especially within children), and I plan to order a new one once I’m finished. I’m also adding a whole list of books for white people specifically to read on racism. You don’t like to read? Here’s a list of Netflix shows to watch on Black History.

It’s time educate ourselves and to use our white privilege to help people of color. It’s time to demand equality and ask yourself questions like “why am I apart of a sorority that doesn’t let black girls in” it’s up to you to make that change. Ask yourself “why am I not allowed to date a black guy” it’s up to you to have that conversation and make a change with the way our parents think. Ask yourself “Why am I supporting black musical artists but not the black lives taken by the police.” It’s time to demand diversity training in the workplace, in schools, in your sorority, etc.

We’ll never understand what it’s like to be a black person in America, but we can spread kindness and not hate. It’s time to treat other human beings the way you would want to be treated. It’s simple. Treat black people, trans people, gay, Asian, Hispanic, Islamic, etc in a way you would want to be treated back. We are all human and we all have our struggles, but it’s time we truly come together and attempt to make this world a better place because right now, it’s falling apart.

And as Jane Elliott said so well, “Every white person in this room who would be happy to be treated as this society treats our black citizens please stand.” And no one stood. Why is that? 

No one is perfect, but change truly starts with us. And if this triggered you, great. It means there’s room to grow and learn and evolve.

-R

It’s extremely important to find activities, food, etc that make you happy especially in quarantine. Something that I have been loving lately is my morning matcha, which I actually found out that I was making wrong this whole time (thanks Tik Tok).

I’d first like to add that matcha is filled with amazing health benefits like natural antioxidants, increased brain function, even weight loss enhancement. It’s also important to buy quality grade matcha so you are getting the best bang for your buck. The matcha I use is organic culinary grade Jade Leaf Matcha. So if you’re skeptical, I’d say to give these green tea extracts a try – but learn how to make it first (unlike me).

So here I am in quarantine with my lovely boyfriend who just happens to have matcha powder that he rarely uses. I decided to give a try at making some iced matcha lattes to start my morning. Pre COVID-19, I used to switch up my regular iced coffee with an iced matcha every once in a while, so I thought I had the process to make this bad boy down.

Add 1-2 teaspoon of matcha, milk, and some sweetener and mix together! Done, easy. See below.

And while this photo looks and tastes amazing, I was actually missing a pretty important step. Water, duh.

Basically, the best way to make an iced matcha latte, is to get your milk (I use oat) and a sweetener of choice (I like honey) and mix/shake those together in a mixing container. I use my magic bullet mixing cups, but mason jars could also do the trick. I usually I eyeball almost everything I cook so I’d say just put however much you’re feeling that day, but let’s assume we are using an 8oz glass. You will then pour this milk mixture over ice filling up a little over half of your 8oz glass. Next you can either grab another mixing container or clean out the one you just used, and add 2 teaspoons of matcha powder along with 2 tablespoons warm water.

It should look a little something like this after mixing.

Finally you’ll want to pour this delicious matcha over your iced milk, mix it up a little, and voila. If you have some room in your glass, you can always top it off with a little more milk. These steps can also be done in reverse order by pouring your milk mixture on top of the iced matcha, depending on what you’d want to taste first.

Here is my final product, and yes the glass brings this whole moment together. Thank you, Courtney, for the cutest gift.

Disclaimer, there’s actually an even more professional way to make a matcha latte, but anyway you decide to make it will most likely still be delicious.

Overall, the added water element gives the whole drink a nice, smooth consistency in comparison to the one with just milk that produces a thicker mixture.

That’s it for my version of matcha, but stay tuned for some more green yummies.

– R

A lot has happened in the starting months of 2020 for myself and for the whole world. So I thought I’d write out an update on what’s been going on, how I’ve been feeling, and hope it’s somewhat relatable.

So 2020: the official year of global chaos, the rise of Tik Tok, virtual everything, and maybe this is just me but I found out there are robot influencers with millions of followers and no one is talking about it??

Anywho, so far for me I’ve finished graduate school and will have a Masters degree in the Business of Fashion, I may or may not have a job anytime soon, and I’ve learned that change is 100% okay.

So graduate school. For anyone interested, I attended Rutgers Business School because I have always wanted to study fashion and was unable to in undergrad. This was basically my only chance to just go for it. I’ve learned more than I probably have in my entire life, met some the greatest people, and formed actual relationships with classmates and professors. Ultimately what I would recommend about this experience is to follow your heart and do what have always wanted to do. I’m not quite there yet, but I know in my soul I will reach my dreams one day.

The job situation, on the other hand, is quite unprecedented. Luckily, I am working as a social media intern; I’m just not really sure if I can be an intern forever. However during a time like this, it’s always important to have a quick cry and then remember the queen you are.

Lastly, let’s discuss change. This quarantine has changed some, if not most of us. We have discovered new hobbies, eating habits, workout routines, and new outlooks on life. For me, I learned that I love my boyfriend more than anything in this world, board games are really fun, and I could probably watch Netflix all hours of the night. I also learned that gaining weight as a woman really offends men. Still trying to understand why, but I saw this awesome quote on Instagram that read “it’s okay if your body changes” and yes it is. We are literally facing a global pandemic, something that has never happened in this world. This not an easy time and change is human nature. The most important thing about your body, however, is to keep it healthy. Nourish it with good foods, workout when your body will allow it, drink lots of water, and never let a man try and define you.

And that’s on feminism. Be back soon. ❤

-R

I have been wanting to do a sustainability post for quite some time now, but I haven’t been able to think of an approach to take. Well, if you haven’t noticed, my title kind of gives it away. Sustainability for dummies aka me. Probably you. Unless Helena is reading (she’s a sustainability kween and also pictured below).

Anywho, sustainability. It’s a difficult topic to understand and sometimes especially difficult in practice. So I thought I’d break it down in 5 cute little steps for anyone who wants to try and take part in saving our planet!

Step 1: Always start with some research.

As I am also part of this ‘sustainability for dummies’ group, I’m going to do some research as I write this blog. Below are some articles I found easy to understand and ultimately interesting for beginners.

Step 2: After some quick research, figure out whats best for you.

So there’s a lot when it comes to being sustainable. Recycling, composting, ethical shopping, etc etc etc. However, it’s not always possible for a single person to practice every aspect of sustainability especially depending on where you live. For instance, in smaller towns composting can be quite the task, but a reusable shopping bag is always practical and very sustainable anywhere you are.

If you can compost, though, I highly recommend because it’s a beautiful process 🙂

Step 3: Understand that no one is perfect.

This one is important. Not a single person is perfect, especially when it comes to being sustainable. We all make mistakes, and it’s okay. I used to get so mad at myself when I would forget my shopping bag for groceries or my reusable water bottle, but I have realized its okay. The world isn’t going to end because I didn’t compost my food. It’s important to understand that it isn’t so much about what we do, but instead how we do it. Basically what I’m getting at is how important the little things are. Understanding how to properly recycle can be ever-changing to our environment.

Step 4: Be conscious.

So you’ve done your research. You know what will work best with your lifestyle and you now know that no one is perfect. It’s time to really think when it comes to making sustainable choices (that is, if you’re serious about it). Check if your grocery packaging is recyclable, what your clothes are made of, where your food coming from, etc. It’s time to take a second to really think about these choices we make every single day. Some questions I have been asking myself lately, “Do I really need this?” or “Is this recyclable?” etc.

Step 5: Never stop learning.

Last, but not least, never stop learning. The world of sustainability is evolving every single day. From new products being launched to innovative ways to be more sustainable. A new product that I have been wanting to try which is great for the environment is the “cora ball” or in other words, a laundry ball that catches all the tiny micro-fibers coming off our clothes in the washing machine. Micro-fiber is actually the single biggest pollution problem facing our ocean, hence why I’m curious to try this cool product! Check it out here and always stay curious about all things sustainable. 🙂

I hope this helped anyone who might be a little interested about sustainability because it’s really such a cool thing. Knowing that I am saving so much plastic using my metal straw or reusable shopping bag is honestly what inspires me every day.

-R

So here’s a story about a sandwich. The best sandwich ever in history of sandwiches according to 5-6 people. Also known as Tina. I literally just made that up while deciding to write this post.

It’s about a famous sandwich that I make, of course. And just to be clear only 5-6 people have been graced with the opportunity to try it. I first made this bad boy in high school. I think it was sophomore year (but also bad memory). I used to only eat at home during the summer, and it was either frozen pizza/pizza rolls, quesadillas, or my famous sandwich.

Either my mom or dad would occasionally bring home the most amazing bread from the grocery. I’m talking that Italian bakery bread. The bread that doesn’t even need butter.

Anywho, I decided to use the delicious bread to make my most amazing sandwich (however I’m open and have used multiple types of bread – per my photo of wheat bread).

I thought I’d just go through the steps for any of those 5-6 people that might be wondering what the mystery behind the best sandwich in the history of sandwiches is.

Step 1: Gather ingredients (this depends on your preference) I use –

  • Bread
  • Turkey
  • Swiss cheese
  • Lettuce
  • Bacon
  • Honey mustard and/or chipotle sauce

Step 2: Begin cooking bacon (but only if you like bacon of course).

Step 3: Toast bread. Now this depends on the type of bread you have. Regular old sandwich bread, throw that in the toaster, but the Italian goodness (a delicacy) goes in the oven on broil for about 5-6 min.

Step 4: Fire up your turkey in the delicious bacon grease. I mean my goodness. My mouth is watering just thinking about this masterpiece of a sandwich. Now the key here is to clean some of that grease out of pan, yet leaving just enough to cook your turkey slices with. Depending on how hungry you are, start with about 4 slices (sometimes 4 and 1/2 if you’re feeling crazy) on your pan. Cook on low for about 5 min. Now, flip and add your cheese on top of the turkey until its melting deliciously down the sides.

Step 5: CHECK YOUR BREAD! Don’t let that baby burn.

Step 6: I am assuming you have taken out your bread and now time to physically make this bad boy. Put your turkey and melted cheese directly on your toasted bread, add the bacon and lettuce, and drizzle your secret sauce (I have been loving chipotle mayo lately) on your other naked piece of bread.

7. Let sit for… just kidding, eat that baby as soon as it’s made and let it burn the hell out of your mouth because it’s just that good.

And that’s on periodt.

-R

These past few weeks have been confusing to say the least. And the past few days I have felt more anxiety than I have in years. I’m not sure if it’s because of the unknown, or the fact that I can’t really go home during this time of panic. However, I continually look back to this beautiful photo (shown above) and feel the calmness it brought me on the day I took it.

So you see, the day this photo was taken, I was on my way to see my long distance boyfriend, missed my flight, and felt like I just flat out ruined the day.

Well spoiler alert, the day wasn’t ruined. It was actually almost perfect. I had the most amazing Lyft driver who was calming, full of positive energy, and had the most encouraging words. I have always been a firm believer in the saying “everything happens for a reason” yet I never really seem to practice it.

It wasn’t until Katyria, my lovely driver, told me just that. While I was panicking, forcing back tears, and not knowing if I was going to have to buy a completely new flight, she said “everything happens for a reason babe, but don’t worry we’re going to get you there on time.”

I knew the moment I stepped in the car we wouldn’t make it, but she gave me some positive hope (and just for kicks, I was literally 5 min too late, which is quite impressive considering I woke up 30 min before my flight left).

Anyways, it wasn’t until this moment of peace and serenity that I realized she was completely right. Everything does happen for a reason, and while these times are so confusing and unpredictable, we are all here for a reason and we all have some sort of plan. Most of us (including me) have no idea what that plan is, but we can try to go with the flow and enjoy every bit of life we can get.

That’s it for today, but stay tuned because I promise I have lots of blog ideas in this very weird time of social distancing.

Stay safe, wash your hands, and always be happy, my loves.

-R

Working and going to school in the NYC metro area is all fun and games until you take a bogus part-time job in between semesters and your hours basically get cut in half. And by half I mean I have the next 13 days off so I have found myself doing absolutely anything and everything to keep myself busy. With one week down of figuring out what to do when you have nothing to do, I thought I’d report my best findings (for anyone who might find themself in the same situation or just needs a good laugh).

First things first, you are going to have a lotttt of free time. This means no more excuses. Go exercise, do your skincare routine, and clean your room. But seriously, skincare. Do it. Every day, twice a day. Actually do all of these things whether you have time off or not. Don’t listen to me. Be the organized, healthy queen you know you are.

With all this free time, might as well try and make some money because you’re already broke. So go ahead and list your entire closet on Poshmark and Depop. It keeps you busy and more money in your pocket. Check out some of my newest listings below because I actually haven’t sold anything in this hard time of not having anything to do.

Another fun activity to do is learn a new skill (if you’re into that sort of thing). There are surprisingly tons of free videos on graphic design, computer programming, and communication skills. You can even take it to the next level and learn to cook a bomb ass meal. In case you were wondering, I have not taken it to the next level, but see below some of my finest, amateur work.

With the lack of income, you might as well spend your money only on necessities (aka groceries and coffee, of course). Explore different coffee shops in your area, write a blog post on your favorite ones, and rate who has the best muffins.

On days when you feel like being a hermit, read a book, drink some tea, or photograph absolutely everything in your apartment in the most satisying ways possible. Many photos were taken, but these were the ones that made the cut.

Lastly, and probably the fan favorite is to binge some Netflix shows. But only at night because you are a hardworking, independent woman/man who needs Vitamin D and human interaction. Anyways, some binge-worthy shows I have watched recently are You, Good Girls, and The Chilling Adventures of Sabrina.

In conclusion, if this is what being a housewife is like, I want absolutely no part in it. Find a good, honest job and always have a backup plan when things go a little unexpected.

I hope you all enjoyed my segment on what to do when you have nothing do. 😛

-R