*Disclaimer* This post is not directed towards anyone or group in particular. It is simply just my thoughts put into words. 🙂
We are officially halfway through 2020 and these first six months have honestly felt like years. We are still facing a global pandemic, yet half of the world is acting as if it’s over. We are fighting for racial equality and we are mourning the thousands of deaths that have occurred from both difficulties.
In my last post I wrote to treat others the way you’d want to be treated. In other words, follow the Golden Rule. It seems, however, following a simple rule may not be enough for most people so I thought I would write out some steps that could be helpful for anyone struggling with kindness this year or knows someone who might be struggling with it. All I have ever wanted to do is spread kindness and love so I truly hope I’m able to make the slightest difference with this blog.
My first step I want to present is the simple idea of canceling your judgment.
I believe no one should ever judge a person based on their appearance and while the color of someone’s skin may come to mind first (as it should), I also mean we shouldn’t judge a person based on the color of their hair, the amount of tattoos or piercings on their body, the size of their body, and especially not their sexual orientation. Let’s try to take a step back this year and stop judging people for reasons that don’t involve your personal life. When we judge someone, especially in public, it is very easy to offend that person by simply making a face, comment, or even by your body language. Human beings have the right to express themselves whether it is with what someone may consider art on their body or the person they choose to love. We never truly know what a person is going through and because of that, it is not our position to make the judgments based merely on outside looks.
That way of thinking should never be accepted, which ultimately leads to my next point of minding your own business (ugh I tried to type that as nice as possible). We each are given our own life to live and that’s truly a beautiful thing. At the end of the day, you matter and your life matters. Sometimes it’s important to once again, take a step back and worry about yourself and your mental and emotional health, and stop worrying about everyone else so much. Now I know some people might say, “Well worrying about others is a kind thing” and yes that is correct. But it’s the situations where you don’t belong that can be detrimental to another person’s life. Worrying about other people by judging them or making assumptions never has a positive outcome. So next time you see something happen that you may think you need to be involved in, think twice about if you actually do. Think twice about if the situation could somehow be misconstrued because you decided you needed be involved.
To wrap things up here, my last step in how to be kind is to take everything from above and think twice about what comes out of your mouth, what you post on social media, and even the thoughts you may have about a person. Now I know this one may be hard for some people (including me), but even your negative thoughts have a greater likelihood to turn into hurtful words. As it was stated above, forming an opinion on something or someone you don’t really know anything about is one of the most harmful things you can do to another person. We are all guilty in some way or another of forming these opinions on people who may look or act in a different way than you are used to. These are mere opinions that can truly do so much more harm than you would ever realize. And I write this because I have been fallen in these categories way too many times of judging someone or thinking negative thoughts for absolutely no reason.
Its human nature to negatively judge someone based on the way they look, but this year I say we try and change that. Of course this won’t happen overnight, but if we can work hard enough to alter our thoughts and actions, I truly believe the world can be a much better place.
Spread kindness, not hate.
It’s okay to have an opinion, but try to understand when stating your opinion aloud, it can be extremely hurtful to another person. And when you do state your opinion out loud, understand that the other person can very well have a completely opposite opinion, and that is also okay.
Let’s make the ending half of 2020 the year of acceptance, understanding, and ultimately kindness.
Until next time,