When I first told my friends I was starting a blog, I asked them to request subjects for me to write on. One of my dear friends requested this subject, and let me tell you, this is not an easy one to write about. I actually avoided this topic for an extremely long time. Question. Does anyone actually feel single AND sufficient? I know I sure haven’t. In high school, I thought I always needed some type of boyfriend in order to feel complete. After getting dumped one after another, I began to realize maybe boys aren’t everything.
Being in my third year of college, and finally being single for a significant amount of time has really given me a different outlook on those so-called “relationships”. Let me tell you one thing about relationships, especially while you’re in college, THEY ARE NOT THAT IMPORTANT. College is about getting an education, but also having the time of your life. When I first started to write this I decided to look up synonyms for sufficient since I would be using the word a lot throughout this blog. The very first one to pop up was “enough”. I thought about it for a second and realized there couldn’t be a more perfect word to describe the idea behind this post. Feeling like you are enough for someone can be difficult, but its time we start feeling enough for ourselves.
So how can one be single yet sufficient? Well one reason is because we are women and women are amazing, duh (total coincidence that I am writing this on International’s Women Day). Being a girl for nearly 21 years now, I have found that it isn’t always easy. Honestly it’s quite difficult being a girl. We go through life trying not to complain about a bad hair day, an overload of emotions, or how fat we feel after eating a salad. Bottom line, women are the ultimate badass, and no one needs a guy to feel confident or empowered.
Okay reason #2 why being single isn’t so bad: We all know and love boys but can you honestly say you love boys more than your best friends? If your answer is yes, stop reading because I think I love my friends more than any guy I have ever dated. My friends will forever be my number one go-to’s about anything, and I am so thankful for that. Having great friends means you can be yourself, eat too many pieces of pizza without being judged, and have as many sleepovers as you want. One of my favorite quotes by the wonderful Cristina Yang is “Don’t let what he wants eclipse what you need. He is very dreamy, but he is not the sun. You are”. If that doesn’t inspire you then I don’t know what will.
Onto my favorite part about being single: Freedom. And I don’t mean freedom to go crazy. I mean the freedom to dress how you want to dress, act how you want to act, and just be yourself. I see too many controlling relationships, and nothing upsets me more than watching someone being held back because of the person they are dating. If it were a perfect world, we would do all those things we’ve always wanted to do. Until then, baby steps.
All in all, boys are great but they aren’t everything. I see girls all the time (including myself 3 years ago) being so dependent on attention from the male species. It’s nice for a while, but just because you are single does not mean you need to settle for anything less than what you deserve. Someone great will come along one day, but in my opinion, it’s part of growing up and waiting for the right opportunity. For now, its important to enjoy the moment, regret nothing, and never ever let a boy hurt your feelings because we are enough – single or not.
Happy (late) International Women’s Day ❤